At the same time, you can record or video the whole process as a souvenir. If your partner is not with you, you can still make a card with the questions and leave your answers to share with your partner. After answering all the questions, the 36 Questions will remind you to lock eyes with your partner, which is the last thing Catron and her friend try in the article. Ms. Catron was unequivocal in her recommendation. “Two minutes is just enough to be terrified,” she told me. “Four really goes somewhere.”